Comments on: Pissed and Put-Out http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed www.GingerWontSnap.com Mon, 16 Jan 2012 19:10:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Abigail http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/comment-page-1/#comment-781 Abigail Sat, 04 Jul 2009 22:13:52 +0000 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/?p=266#comment-781 Not at all unreasonable. of course, I'm the kind of person who puts myself out to help others and so this kind of thing (not to this extent!) happens a lot to me. People cancel and you're left wondering a) why you're not any kind of priority, apparently and b) why they think they can act that way. <br /><br />I've gotten better at limits thanks to a lot of work, but even so, I don't think I could have said no to a friend who was between places. <br /><br />Also curious why in the hell her own sister decided she could just leave her in a lurch like that. Not at all unreasonable. of course, I'm the kind of person who puts myself out to help others and so this kind of thing (not to this extent!) happens a lot to me. People cancel and you're left wondering a) why you're not any kind of priority, apparently and b) why they think they can act that way.

I've gotten better at limits thanks to a lot of work, but even so, I don't think I could have said no to a friend who was between places.

Also curious why in the hell her own sister decided she could just leave her in a lurch like that.

]]> By: Ginger http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/comment-page-1/#comment-778 Ginger Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:25:30 +0000 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/?p=266#comment-778 Well, after I chewed her out a little bit over txt she decided that maybe she would come...<br /><br />Then I told her it was already 11 and could she make it by 11:30?<br /><br />She said no, because she was all the way downtown.<br /><br />You know what though? That late at night it only takes 30 mins or less to get to my place from where she was. So I just didn't dignify her with a response.<br /><br />I went to bed angry and still haven't put the guest bed away and stuff.<br /><br />At least my apt. is tidier now. :S<br /><br />I just don't know what to do about this girl, though. Where do I go from here? Well, after I chewed her out a little bit over txt she decided that maybe she would come…

Then I told her it was already 11 and could she make it by 11:30?

She said no, because she was all the way downtown.

You know what though? That late at night it only takes 30 mins or less to get to my place from where she was. So I just didn't dignify her with a response.

I went to bed angry and still haven't put the guest bed away and stuff.

At least my apt. is tidier now. :S

I just don't know what to do about this girl, though. Where do I go from here?

]]> By: Amy http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/comment-page-1/#comment-774 Amy Fri, 03 Jul 2009 12:02:32 +0000 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/?p=266#comment-774 What ended up happening? Did she show up? That's super rude on her part...rude to ask in the first place, and then to not follow through. Uncool. What ended up happening? Did she show up? That's super rude on her part…rude to ask in the first place, and then to not follow through. Uncool.

]]> By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/comment-page-1/#comment-773 FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com Fri, 03 Jul 2009 11:41:24 +0000 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/?p=266#comment-773 You should just tell her simply, that either she commits to staying there or not, because you spent all night cleaning (a guilt trip may help) and you were waiting for her and felt a bit put out by the fact that she was partying instead of wanting a place to crash.<br /><br />no breakfast is worth that. You should just tell her simply, that either she commits to staying there or not, because you spent all night cleaning (a guilt trip may help) and you were waiting for her and felt a bit put out by the fact that she was partying instead of wanting a place to crash.

no breakfast is worth that.

]]> By: Rina the Mama Bear http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/comment-page-1/#comment-772 Rina the Mama Bear Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:50:13 +0000 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/?p=266#comment-772 I'd be pissed too!!! You went through all that trouble, not to mention you opened your home to her...and she ditches you? I don't like confrontation but I'd find it difficult NOT to say something, even politely.<br /><br />Like, hello, I structured my night around you, when you went AWOL I was pretty offended! I'd be pissed too!!! You went through all that trouble, not to mention you opened your home to her…and she ditches you? I don't like confrontation but I'd find it difficult NOT to say something, even politely.

Like, hello, I structured my night around you, when you went AWOL I was pretty offended!

]]> By: Webgrrl74 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/2009/07/pissed-and-put-out/comment-page-1/#comment-771 Webgrrl74 Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:07:37 +0000 http://www.gingerwontsnap.com/?p=266#comment-771 She should respect what you're doing for her and respect what time you are going to bed (and some time for a wee visit/tea,etc).<br /><br />I'd probably end the convo by saying (all with a smile on my face)..Okay, well, I go to bed at midnight, etc. If you can be here by then great, but if not I guess you'll have to stay someplace else. <br /><br />Maybe that's just me though as I'm tired of being the doormat now. :) She should respect what you're doing for her and respect what time you are going to bed (and some time for a wee visit/tea,etc).

I'd probably end the convo by saying (all with a smile on my face)..Okay, well, I go to bed at midnight, etc. If you can be here by then great, but if not I guess you'll have to stay someplace else.

Maybe that's just me though as I'm tired of being the doormat now. :)

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