A few of you have caught my tweets about some friends of mine that are in a sort of perverted love triangle thing.
I know it’s not really my business, but at least two of those involved are my good friends, who also happen to be a common-law couple.
Naturally, the wife is unloading on me all what is happening to her, how her husband is “in love” with their friend who has been staying at their place after breaking up with her fiance. It’s only been a month that they’ve all been living together.
He has been having sex with both of them, but otherwise shutting my friend out, in favour of the new, shiny toy. Obviously this is a retarded thing to do, and upsets everyone. There’s a lot more crap and asshattery going on, but that’s neither here nor there.
The thing is, this is upsetting me on many, many levels. I want to be there for my friends, but I can’t risk getting involved and potentially saying something that pisses them all off. And yet somehow I am finding myself getting involved.
My question is: how can I stay out of this, but still maintain a friendship with all of them? I really don’t want to be part of the drama, but since it is the major focus of their lives right now, it’s all they talk about. I don’t really want to just “fade away” until things get better–I don’t know if they will or not.
So how do you stay out of trouble? What would you do in this situation?
Thus far I have succeeded in not “talking behind someone’s back” which I have done before (to my regret) and when I have said something, it has been straight up to that person. They haven’t always agreed with me, but at least I said it to their face, right?
But yeah. Tricky situation. I think they’re all being retarded about it, but of course no one will listen to me. And is it really my place to even say anything? I see so much destruction and illness and I don’t want them all to be hurt or hurt each other in this way. But then again, I’m not really involved, other than by virtue of the fact that I am a friend to all of them.
This whole situation just leaves me upset and frustrated after I speak to the wife. (haha, one of the reasons I have been cleaning my apartment like a fiend–I need to do some hard labour to get my mind off this!).
So, is it my problem, or not? Should I get involved, cut myself off, or offer cautious advice? Or just say nothing at all and watch my friends destroy themselves?